We recently had the honor of attending big sister Lauren's college graduation. She has worked hard for four years and she deserves every bit of pride, relief and excitement that she now feels.
We spend a fun day in her college town, exploring downtown, and getting a little taste of the place she has called home for the past few years.
Cami loved exploring the fountains and elevators and even the bleachers. She hung in there like a champ until about 9pm when she crawled up in my lap and asked me to sing her a lullaby.
Cami has been asking questions. It seems that to ask about Delilah is safer. She doesn't ask about her own past, but she is lately quite concerned about Delilah's "parents".
"Doesn't she already have a mommy and daddy"???
"Who is taking care of her"?
"Will Lilah miss her Daddy when she comes home with us"?
Very tough questions. Both to answer, and to know are rattling around in Cami's heart.
Today I was fixing her hair into pigtails and she asked me, "What is Delilah's mommy's name"???
I had to tell her I didn't know. When she pushed for more information I took a deep breath and told Cami that just like Delilah, she was born to a mommy in China and that mommy was not able to take care of a baby for some reason. So she needed China to find a mommy and daddy that could take care of this baby and love her forever...... and how we are so happy that China let us be the family for her. And now we will become Delilah's family forever in just the same way.
With a stillness that never comes when I'm fixing her hair, and a voice as clear and pure as the first voice ever heard, Cami looked at me in the mirror and said,
"I look at my daughter and usually I see a laughing, happy, healthy child. But sometimes I look at her and I see a thousand layers, a depth I will never visit, and a memory I humbly respect but cannot share. Her heart beats a thousand years story, with the blood of China, and a history in her short life more vast than mine will ever be. I owe it to her to never forget. I owe it to her to protect the fragile pieces of her story until the time comes for her to claim it. "